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I recently came across a list of 30 writing prompts to help BDSM enthusiasts spend a month delving into this aspect of their lives. I’ll be answering them daily (or as close to daily as possible), both for my own benefit and to inform some of my other posts around here. When I’m done I’ll move on to the 30-day LGBTQ challenge, which also looks like a lot of fun.

The questions I will be answering are:

  • Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
  • List your kinks.
  • How did you discover you were kinky?
  • Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?
  • What was your first kinky sexual experience?  If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.
  • Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.
  • What’s your favorite toy?
  • Post a kinky image you find erotic.
  • Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.
  • What are your hard limits?
  • What are your views on the ethics of kink?
  • Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had.  If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
  • Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you?  Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
  • How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink?  If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
  • Write about a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
  • What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
  • What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
  • Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves?  If so, what are they?
  • Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life?  If so, what are they?
  • Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.
  • Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
  • What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy?  How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
  • Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed?  How so?
  • What qualities do you look for in a partner?
  • How open are you about your kinks?
  • What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
  • Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?
  • How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to you?
  • Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)?  What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?
  • Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

If you decide to answer them for yourself, leave me a link in the comments!