Compersion is a word I discovered recently, which apparently denotes the emotion of joy in knowing that your romantic partner is happy with his or her other romantic partner. In the polyamorous world, it is the opposite of jealousy. I’m really glad that I have this word to describe my new feelings.
Related terms include the questionable “frubbly,” which refers to the feeling that compersion creates. I don’t think I could ever say that with a straight face. Moving on.
Looking back, I realize that I’ve always felt a degree of compersion. I liked hearing stories about my partners’ exes, because hearing about what made them happy at one time (even if the relationship didn’t work out) made me happy as well. I had friendly relationships with many of them, even with those I hadn’t known previously. Instead of viewing them as competition, they were people who obviously valued the same things I did. Continue reading