Disclaimer: I am not passing judgment on anyone here, or telling anyone that they should be different than they are. I am asking for clarification on a topic that genuinely confuses me, and appreciate any input you might have.
Lately I’ve been wondering if I am some variety of transgender or genderqueer. I won’t bore you with the details of why I think that, but let it suffice to say that when I came out to the people closest to me, none of them were surprised. But one friend’s intelligent and thoughtful response led me to wonder if I’m being just being sexist, by attempting to trade one set of stereotypes for another.
J’s exboyfriend F has gender dysphoria disorder, and it brings him a lot of stress and pain. He doesn’t even like activities that force him to confront that he was born without a dick, like sex. J reminded me of this, and I agree– I am often uncomfortable with my biological body, but definitely not to the degree that F is, and I don’t wish to compare myself to those who are. Continue reading